Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are!

We are all familiar with the bible verse Proverbs 4:23, where it warns us to "guard our hearts". But when many of us hear the verse, we immediately relate to it and the first thing that comes to our minds as youths is that "I MUST PROTECT MY HEART FROM THE NEXT FOOLISH BOY OR GIRL THAT COMES MY WAY".

We get so consumed in trying to protect our hearts from the next boyfriend or girlfriend that we sometimes forget that we need to protect our hearts from those around us also. Broken friendships leave many heartbroken too. There are so many people who cannot differentiate between a friend and an acquaintance. I see people getting bare excited when someone sends them a friend request on Facebook and then so upset when that same person "unfriends" them soon after. But why? Many have a poor understanding of who real friends are.

I am pretty sure there are some who are reading this, who are saying to themselves that they don't have to worry about getting hurt by friends or being surrounded by fake friends because they have already discarded them all. They don't have friends and the don't need them. That's great I guess, I feel this exact way all the time but there is only so far one can go alone. Anyone that believes that they can go through this journey of life alone and carry their vision by themselves must realize it's because that vision is way too small.

"Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light" - Helen Keller.

We need friendships. The same way some cannot be alone without a partner, we need a friend. Relationships is ones greatest resource. Many times God loves and helps us through people and by cutting people off you are cutting of the love and the healing that others bring from your life.

(Good read: John 9:9-15)

Who are friends? Friends are those people that stand by you, flaws and all. Even though they know you are capable of being the biggest dunce that's out there, they never stop sticking around. They imitate the love of God towards you. Sacrifice and all. They are happy when you succeed. They rejoice when you rejoice and cry when you cry.

AVOID AVOID AVOID THESE PEOPLE!

Most common mistake people make is when they become best friends with someone because that 'someone' is against who they are against. We have all done this at some point. Unknowingly people become best friends with those who dislike the same person they don't like. Okay maybe not best friends, but you would have long conversations with them regarding that person but as soon as that same somebody you deemed to be your friend fraternizes with the enemy. Sooner or later she will now be having long conversations about you with your 'enemy'. They were only your friend at the time of the battle but as soon as the battle was over, you guys had nothing left in common. Yes, I am extreme but it's true :)

I guess what I am trying to say be careful with who you choose to call you friend. As they say, we can't choose our family but we can choose our friends. We need to choose our friends wisely, choose people who are going to help you to where you are going and not based on where you have been. There are some old friends who shouldn't be called your friend anymore. As T.D. Jakes said, "There are friends who connect with where we come from but not where we are going"!.

They are friends who are based around your history and not your destiny. And you cannot reach your tomorrow with certain yesterday friends. They just feed on you, drain you and deplete you. You can't keep relating with people who relate to what you are trying to get rid of.

Choose your friends wisely. When was the last time that you so called "best friend" called you and asked about you, your relationship or your family? When was the last time you two just relaxed together doing nothing but enjoying each others company? But still they are your friend???

Stop it lol. Just NO no no. It's even just be a loner still and stop with the pretense.

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How to distinguish fake friends from real ones? You need to test your friendship. You need to see those who will be loyal behind your back. Those who will choose you over themselves. You need to avoid those people who have proven countless times that they don't deserve your love. To stop planting your seed in bad soil. I tell myself everyday now and again that "MY LOVE IS TOO RICH TO PLANT IN POOR SOIL", maybe do the same. You need to be careful who you give access of your life to. Sometimes tell people NONYA, see you later.

Let me give a pretty straightforward example, we choose the wrong friends and because of that we shared a bit too much of ourselves with that friend and this only led to you getting offended. Few recognize that some of the crises we have, we created all by ourselves.

For example,fake pages that are made to expose people....How did those people get that information about those people if not because they confided in the wrong people. They misunderstood friendship and invested too much of themselves as a result.

Close your circle of friends so you can go higher and not wider. The only way is UP.

And stop going back to the people that have hurt you for relief. They left you for a reason. LET THEM GOOOOOOOO. Once they are gone they are gone. I know this is hard. I can honestly say I have problems with letting go at times but I have come to realize those who are for you are for you and those who aren't for you, aren't for you. Best way to let go is to forgive those who left you because they couldn't stay. They were in your past and not in your future. They made room for God to form new and better relationships for you that will only propel you into victory.

1. Be cautious with certain friends.

2. Don't mistake someone who is against what you are against as a friend.

3. Choose your friends wisely.

4. Stop confiding in the wrong people.

5. If they left you, it's only a blessing in which you nor I can understand but God is working in the background so let go, forgive and be happy :)

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